There is something about you that keeps me pursuing. I understand that we are not in the that position in life to make any sort of 'commitments' because of potential consequences, ambitions, and other aspirations in life. I commend you for that. And if the pieces fall in place then so be it. But for now, let's sail where the wind blows. Life is unpredictable so anything can happen. I think that's the greatest joy in life: to live not without regrets but freely of them.
Thanks for that talk Polly and John.
Unphogettable (6:33:16 PM): meh with girls
Unphogettable (6:33:21 PM): they don't think about friendships and relationships
Unphogettable (6:33:24 PM): the same way guys do
tandks85 (6:33:34 PM): yeah
Unphogettable (6:33:39 PM): with girls, because they share their feelings and whatnot with their girlfriends
Unphogettable (6:33:44 PM): when guys do it, they think it's the same thing
Unphogettable (6:33:52 PM): but with guys, we only open up with people we super care about
Unphogettable (6:34:06 PM): so when a guy tries to make a move the girl gets caught off guard and offendes
Unphogettable (6:34:16 PM): and thinks that the guy was just friend with her to get into her pants
Unphogettable (6:34:20 PM): which of course isn't true
tandks85 (6:34:45 PM): you're totally right
Unphogettable (6:34:49 PM): so when a girl connects with the guy on that intimate level, it's easy for guys to misconstrue that as maybe her wanting something more
Unphogettable (6:34:56 PM): girls dont get that
Unphogettable (6:35:12 PM): and when a guy likes a girl and their friendship grows, it's natural to want to date them
Unphogettable (6:35:18 PM): cuz hey, we get along
Unphogettable (6:35:22 PM): let's spend more time together
Unphogettable (6:36:06 PM): so that's why
Unphogettable (6:36:20 PM): i feel if a move isn't made
Unphogettable (6:36:29 PM): then it will never happen on the girl's end
Unphogettable (6:36:40 PM): because they see it as another friendship that they hae
Unphogettable (6:36:42 PM): *have
tandks85 (6:38:07 PM): hmmm food for thoughts that's for sure.
Unphogettable (6:38:16 PM): just my opinon, i dont know
Unphogettable (6:38:52 PM): but yeah, not to misconstrue anything i say as like
Unphogettable (6:38:54 PM): girl bashing
Unphogettable (6:39:01 PM): it's just we approach relationships and friendships different
Unphogettable (6:39:10 PM): and we, as guys, should understand that
Unphogettable (6:39:15 PM): and make obvious our intentions
Unphogettable (6:39:27 PM): because if a we're sharing stuff with a girl, we want more, but they dont know that
Unphogettable (6:39:30 PM): when we think we're being super obvious
Unphogettable (6:39:43 PM): they think we're just being friends
tandks85 (6:40:03 PM): yeah haven't really thought of it that way
tandks85 (6:40:08 PM): it's making sense now
Unphogettable (6:40:21 PM): so if you ask her, use the word date
Unphogettable (6:40:26 PM): that's as obvious as it can get
Unphogettable (6:40:28 PM): without being super strong
Unphogettable (6:40:29 PM): lol
